If you’re a Widow/widower and you’re not In some private fb groups with those like you, I think you’re Missing out, I learn so much From them, both good And bad, it’s a case study for me and it motivates me to change almost like looking in a mirror.
If I don’t want to be that way, ie. Stuck in sorrow for a year or years, Not Moving forward or having any joy, bitter, angry, hopeless,
Then I determine to do the opposite and get different results!
Many of them show me such beauty and grace and strength that I admire and want to emulate;
they inspire me;
they’re my heroes;
they understand,
they get it.
Here’s to all my widow/widower friends ??????
I love you!

Episode 13 of 39 day gratitude challenged by a grieving widow

November 11, 2021, Punta Cana, Dominican Republic

Robert Frost said, “In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life…it goes on”.

The problem is that after someone you love dies, life does go on, but it’s not as simple as it sounds. When you’re submerged in grief, it doesn’t seem like you could ever possibly move on and learn to live without that person.

The last thought in your mind is that life is ever going to go on, and that things are ever going to be better. The truth is, it never really gets easy, but instead, you just start to learn to adjust to this new life. Then you have to figure out how to move forward and survive.

Not all at once does this happen, but slowly. Slowly you start to pick up the pieces of your broken world and put them together in a way that starts to give you some purpose and meaning again. One day, you find yourself crying less than the day before. Another day, you even find yourself laughing, smiling and finding genuine joy and happiness in daily life. One day, the pain has subsided more than you ever could have imagined.

Eventually…you’re genuinely living life again.

Here’s the thing…life doesn’t give you an option when the person you love is taken from you. You don’t get to pick and choose who leaves your life…when and how it’s going to affect you. One day, your world gets flipped upside down and you have to figure out how to continue on.

After a while, everyone around you goes back to their own life. Life continues to move on and it feels like yours is at a standstill…whether you like it or not. People stop asking about your less. You stop being everyone’s first priority and you go back to being just another person with another sad story.

Then you start to realize that you don’t have any other choice but to carry on too. Everyone else is doing it. It’s time that you go back to work. You have to start leaving the house again. You have to get dressed and go out and do all the things life demands of you.

You have to live again.

Let’s be honest…what other choice do you have?

What would your person want for you? Would your loved one want you sitting in the house, crying all day while you could be out and living your life? I think they wouldn’t want to see you like this. It just wouldn’t make them happy.

Don’t you agree?

Life goes on…and this includes your life. Yes, the person you love died, but you’re still here. Yes, it’s going to suck without the person you love by your side, but the world still holds all the opportunities, experiences, and most of all love, that it has to offer you.

You’re still living and have every chance to make the rest of your life whatever you want to make it.

Do it for them…but also make sure to do it for yourself.

Gary Sturgis – “Surviving Grief”

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It’s been 3 months since you were stolen from me. I miss you more each day.
What I wouldn’t give to feel your touch and melt into your arms and press my ear to your chest to hear your heart beat and have you stroke my hair and whisper, “everything’s gonna be okay”

I know now that no sadness comes close to losing your Life Partner. I would not wish this on anyone.
I love you, Todd Alan Snyder,
The man who loved me when I was not loveable,
The man Who believed in me when I did not believe in myself…
I wouldn’t be a quarter of the woman I am today if you hadn’t stepped into my life, swept me off my feet and loved me unconditionally until I learned to love myself. You are the reason I can be strong as I face this storm.
Forever In my heart ??
Shari

Feeling very weepy today. It’s national widows day!
I rg g se to be a statistic because I claim God‘s promises over my life, but it is an inside peek into widowhood.
Thinking of all my new friends in this club we never wanted to join. V.

This fact helps explain the ache of loneliness I feel:

?Did you know… most widow(er)s lose 75% of their support base when their spouse dies?

“Today is National Widows and Widowers Day.
It is not for celebration but for awareness.
This is why National Widow’s Day matters:

National Widow’s Day is May 3

?Did you know… 800,000 people are widowed each year?

?Did you know… 700,000 of those are women?

?Did you know… most widows live in poverty? (Over 115 million world wide)

?Did you know… “death of a spouse” is listed as the #1 stressor on the stress index scale and is considered one of life’s most devastating events?

?Did you know… 60% of those who lose a spouse or significant other will experience a serious illness within 12 months?

?Did you know… insomnia is one of the most common symptoms for a grieving spouse?

?Did you know… most widow(er)s lose 75% of their support base when their spouse dies?

?Did you know… after 3 – 4 months most of the remaining support fades for a widow(er)?

?Did you know… it really is possible to die of a broken heart? Widow(er)s have a 30% elevated risk of death in the first 6 months after their loss

Be nice to a widow today, you have no idea what they deal with.”

widowhood has taught me 3 key things In the first 90 days:

1. appreciation for marriage
2. appreciation for marriage
3. appreciation for marriage

This Week was particularly hard. It’s as if when 90 days passed, I was hit with the reality of new losses that accompany the loss of a spouse and new anger and rage. I grieve the loss of my husband and I grieve the loss of my marriage my future and my identity, I grieve the loss of a two income household and no life ins. I took great pride and comfort in being someone’s wife and being responsible for his happiness health and well-being and of course having that reciprocated. I loved Being protected and provided for and the safety and security that someone has my back at all times and would lay down his life for me.

We finished a Container Tiny Home project for a client he had started and was really looking forward to finishing when he got out of the hospital. We got the porch halfway completed that he had also started before he got sick. after 90 days, I finally got my office organized and I wanted to show him and have him rejoice with me.
He wasn’t here for Andrews first job at Home Depot and the school play and he wasn’t here for Christianna‘s graduation from college. New waves of grief, sadness and lots of tears… I am finding comfort in the book my friend gave me yesterday and looking forward to meeting the author who lives in my city.

He was my PLAN A all the way, baby! Never had a plan B.
When lying in the hospital, I told him passionately through tears how much I need him, I said “you know I’m such a hot mess without you! I don’t want another husband! I just want you the rest of my life! It took me 25 years to train you; I’ve got way too much invested in you and you know it, don’t you dare die on me now!”

https://youtu.be/BKvM8dkIweo

Day one https://youtu.be/6TUUco5XDQI

Day two https://youtu.be/VEuqW_dh01E

Day three. https://youtu.be/uULGCm3IoQg

Day four. bDJ8https://youtu.be/SZW7Tc_bDJ8

Day five. https://youtu.be/xmatw_66H8o

Day six. https://youtu.be/NjCBjwL1oT0?

Day seven. https://youtu.be/bHvgU1otTVk

Day eight. https://youtu.be/LPeos7XPa4I

Day nine. https://youtu.be/4tkeYhRlH1Y

Day ten. https://youtu.be/aIXlnRNVHR4

Day eleven. https://youtu.be/e–6Jh9A8u4

I’m with you, @Katrin Crum,

I won’t shut up, I won’t sit down, I won’t be bullied! I won’t bow to their tyranny! I will get louder! I will be his voice until we meet again!

I am fearless because my worst nightmare already happened. What are they going to threaten me with? Death? Really? That ain’t gonna work anymore.

***My Covid widows rock! They are my heroes! Just you watch, we will be the catalyst to change the medical tyranny and all this evil evil tyranny!

We know the truth, we have nothing to lose and we won’t back down!

We’re not gonna take it anymore!!!

Here’s Our theme song:

When people tell me I’m beautiful now

(It just happened again when a perfect stranger stopped Me at Home Depot, it wasn’t any creepy sort of way)

I know they see Jesus in me so

I thank them and nod my head with a knowing that they are right, but it is quite trivial as I know it’s just a side effect of walking through hell on earth and still believing in heaven.

Trust me, you don’t want to be as beautiful as me! My beauty shines from the inside, My insides were shattered into a million pieces, it’s only because I let Jesus do surgery on me Over and over again as my heart keeps breaking that I can still stand and still smile and still be beautiful! I guess He does make beauty from

Ashes, I just wish there was another way! I wish my love was still by my side and still in my bed with me…

But it was the decades of walking with Jesus before my trial that allowed me to respond that way.

If you wait until the trial happens, it’s too late, you’re totally screwed!

My strength is also a result of Todd loving me unconditionally for so many years and my desire to honor him as I know he sees everything on earth and I cannot let his death be in vain.

From the time I was 14 years old, my life verse has been Philippians 310 “that I may know him and the power of his resurrection and the fellowship of his sufferings, being made conformable to his death“

From a friend: My Lyme doc in Seattle and colleagues did research on the frequency of which Covid entails. The frequency was of complete evil with low vibrations to break down the spirit via the biochemicals of the brain-
This Covid virus was created to do this. Light therapy is so important while having Covid and best from watching a sunset or sunrise. Doc said this with prayer changes the frequency into a God vibration and can lessen symptoms heal one faster along with nutraceuticals/ supplements/herbs.
My doc told me to stare into the sun 30 min before sundown with a grateful prayer of healing. What would of taken me a long time to heal bc of Lyme, was cut to a few days. This “God frequency” as she called it is needed through the eyes from our sun- and not through a window, but looking at it outside.
It changes the Covid frequency and shuts it down.

Sounds woo woo, but I embraced it and it was such an experience of comfort, love, happiness, and peace.  

If you look up Masaru Emoto, the word “Covid” spoken on drops of water creates a demonic structure.
Just unreal. Covid was intentionally created this way and it makes me really wonder what these “vaccines” will be doing to people a year from now?