I understand that grief over a divorce is a different kind of grief than having your marriage destroyed by death.

I have a few friends who have been through both types of grief.

I wonder if the main difference is the latter didn’t want it to end.

I know some divorces are one-sided in the desire to end and I ?think that would be more painful, but in the end, I think that’s why grief through death in a marriage you did not want to end, but you were happily married, is harder to find that resilience and build a new life.

I do try to be understanding of the grief caused by divorce, and I cannot empathize, but sometimes I think divorced people would do well to think about our situation, as being a different kind of grief.

Grief should not be compared because it is subjective to the persons perspective, and it should be honored individually. My grief counselor Vicki Hagadorntaught me that.

The truth is, I haven’t walked in your shoes and you haven’t walked in mine so let’s not judge each other or compare grief.

It would be lovely if we all had more compassion for each others situation.

What I’d like you to take away from this is, if you have someone in your life, whose marriage ended by death, please don’t compare it to your marriage ended by divorce.

It is uniquely and individually different, and we widows/widowers would do well to have more compassion for our divorced friends as well.

I know I think God every day that I had a beautiful marriage and life and that it didn’t end in divorce.

I love you!

I believe in you!

Keep healing ???? ?

It is worth it.