1) Self-Reliance. Have they successfully endured some time as a happy single? Are they capable of “adulting” without being totally dependent on parents or a boyfriend/girlfriend? The best marriages are two, whole, powerful people joining forces, not two half-people trying to be one whole person.

2) Spiritual Alignment. Our spiritual beliefs underpin every big decision we make. If you’re not aligned spiritually on “meaning of life” kind of things, you’re setting yourself up for potential disaster.

3) Growth mindset. Look for 1 or more of these clues:

– physical exercise/diet regimens

– reading books on personal or spiritual development, business, finance

– working on improving their habits

– attending classes/conferences not required by an employer

Basically, do they work on themselves with their own time and money?

4)Physical attraction. Don’t care what anyone else thinks. Through your own eyes, does this person ‘rev your engine’ a bit? Did your heart beat notably increase the first time you held or thought of holding their hand or putting your arms around them?