It doesn’t matter if you’ve lost a loved one; every single one of us experiences grief in this life.

And none of us were taught how to recover from it and be resilient.

It takes work, vulnerability, honesty and a safe place to process the lies into truth so we can be free, completely free, more healed, more complete and more whole.

I am only halfway through the eight week course with Vicki as my guide and friend.

But I am experiencing the benefits and have concluded that every One of us Can benefit and find peace.

Pick up the phone and give her a call today for a free consult to see if you are ready to dive in.

To give you an idea of how many tools/supplies he had, a 40 foot cargo container was full and a 16 foot trailer.

He had tools for every single trade.

He was a genius and 100% self taught.

I was a minimalist, but he was not when it came to tools.?
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He did woodworking
(he made my dream kitchen below out of a maple tree he and his dad cut down on the family farm and this beautiful cherry wood table below ?as well as many other extravagant projects)?
?
He did mechanics
(He tore apart his entire F350 truck twice last year to fix the turbo, There was a part missing the first time so He did it in half the time the second time??)?

heating and cooling, electrical, welding, plumbing, siding, painting, concrete, framing, roofing and everything in between.?

He taught all three of our children.

When the girls were in high school, ?We gutted an ?ugly duckling and made it into this dream home.??

?At age 11, Andrew built his first tiny home with his dad.

?My daughter kept enough for her lifetime and I kept enough for Andrew and I? to have a basic set.
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We had already sold quite a bit to friends before the sale and I still had to make six trips to the site.

Tomorrow, I hope to reduce it to only one trip home and sell the rest at an auction.

This is the reality of deep grief. Even when you love God and believe in His promises. Even when you know without a doubt that some day you will see your loved one again. Even when you know hope is still there. Even when you know He is near.

It takes time.

It takes wading through an ocean of tears.

It takes finding a possession of your loved one you thought was lost and realizing God did that just to comfort you. It takes discovering one day that the sun still shines. It takes being caught off guard when you catch yourself smiling, only to realize it’s okay.

It takes prayer. It takes making the decision to stop asking for answers and start asking for perspective. It takes telling people to please not avoid saying her name — you want to hear it, over and over and over again.

Then one day you take off the blanket of deep grief. You fold it neatly and tuck it away. You no longer hate it or resist it. For underneath it, wondrous things have happened over time. Things that could only have come about when Divine Hope intersects with a broken world.

And finally you can see years stretching before you once again. You look up, blow a kiss, wipe a tear and find it’s still possible to dance.

by Lysa TerKeurst

If there is one injustice

I Loathe more than any other,

it’s child trafficking!

This video was the gateway

for me to understand

The depravity inflicted on our

precious children.

I will always be an

advocate for children

against this horrific tragedy!

I’d lay my life down

to protect any child against this.

As I went down the rabbit hole to research it far too deep, I am forever changed by what I saw and learned about the truth about our missing children.

Become educated, protect a child!

https://youtu.be/kaKNI5TTsAo

Like the rising Phoenix,
I exchanged ashes for beauty
and Sharilyn 2.0 emerged.

The stress of fighting for his life
57 days only to lose
took its toll on my body.
Lots of tears this past week.
Tears of pity for My kids And I
and what we lost.

Around 6 months,
I consciously shifted
from survival mode
into thriving mode,
but now as I approach
eight months this Sunday,
I am shifting into creation mode
and I am falling in love with my future
As I work to create Sharilyn 3.0.

Stay tuned, my friends.

Ps I was asked on a date today, it was fun, we shall see ????

To me, it’s a case study to explore this world I previously knew nothing about.

My friend, Clint Fiore wrote this and I couldn’t agree more. It worked for me the first time.

Top 5 qualities to look for in a spouse.
And 4 things that seem important but don’t really matter.

1) Self-Reliance. Have they successfully endured some time as a happy single? Are they capable of “adulting” without being totally dependent on parents or a boyfriend/girlfriend? The best marriages are two, whole, powerful people joining forces, not two half-people trying to be one whole person.

2) Spiritual Alignment. Our spiritual beliefs underpin every big decision we make. If you’re not aligned spiritually on “meaning of life” kind of things, you’re setting yourself up for potential disaster.

3) Agreement on kids. The kids/no-kids decision will drastically change your future together, and the feelings here are deep and powerful. Make sure you’re in agreement on having them or not. How many doesn’t have to be agreed up front and can be fun to figure out together.

4) Growth mindset. Look for 1 or more of these clues:

• physical exercise/diet regimens
• reading books on personal or spiritual development, business, finance
• working on improving their habits
• attending classes/conferences not required by an employer

Basically, do they work on themselves with their own time and money?

5) Physical attraction. Don’t care what anyone else thinks. Through your own eyes, does this person ‘rev your engine’ a bit? Did your heart beat notably increase the first time you held or thought of holding their hand or putting your arms around them?

If you’re 5/5 on the above, you have a powerful potential match in a mate.

But stupidly, I see people looking for the next 4 things more often, which actually don’t really matter that much:

4 things that don’t really matter…

1) Race/Nationality/Culture. So many happy couples have different skin colors, country or cultural origins. Don’t rule people out because they grew up somewhere else with different traditions. It can really bond you learning the differences and creating your own unique mashup.

2) Similar Hobbies. I mean it can be cool if you’re both avid mountainbikers or whatever, but it’s not a good foundation of a relationship. Hobbies change over time. It’s more important you tolerate each other’s hobbies than conform to exactly the same ones.

3) Arbitrary Physical Attributes. Try not to totally rule people out based on a hair or skin color, height, build, or other preference you think is a “must have”.

As long as physical attraction is there, that’s all you need, so be open minded, you might be surprised.

You really want someone with the ability to make money as needed, steward money responsibly, save/invest, delay gratification, work hard. Those “forever” things.

4) “Having Money”.

“Having money” when you meet could be temporary.

Good Financial Character > Bank Balance / Job

I hope this framework helps you unmarried folks on your journey.

Marrying well is the ultimate life hack.

Happily married people, did I miss anything important?

Sometimes you have to go deep

into dark waters of emotion:

grief, trauma, loss, sadness and sorrow

before you can rise like the Phoenix

and fly freely

into your unknown future.

I will face all my fears and tears

with bravery and courage and grace,

I will not run from them

or try to mask or Bury the pain

with temporary Band-Aids.

I am fully committed

to healing my heart

so I can be the best me

for my children and

those around me.

???????

From My work with
grief recovery Method
and Vicki Hagadorn

My Grief, she speaks…

She has shown me that…

I didn’t know real pain until I was desperately inhaling his sweater for remnants of a scent that once gave me life…

I didn’t know pain until every single moment I shared with the ONE person now I face alone…

I didn’t know pain, until I see the immense hurt in my children’s eyes and know its the one time I can’t make it better…

I didn’t know pain, until our next chapter then became “my new reality” instead…

I can go on for another 35 yrs & infinity…

My Grief she shows me….

That I am stronger than I EVER thought possible…

That I release through my art and feel moments of real joy…

That I will persevere and triumph for my children…

That I will continue to honor myself and break generational curses!

That I will heal, because I am dealing with it,

every single ounce of it…

It’s most definitely not enjoyable, in fact its actually something I wouldn’t wish on anyone!

But, I have GOD on my side, and through him all things are made possible!

I have sooooooooo many images I will be creating for my grief journey,

They will be my next chapter babies, Something that I give life to that in return gives me the life I now need more than ever!

This post isn’t for pity, its to honor my love and to acknowledge YOUR love/loss…

Grief, I see you

I feel you

Until the next time, I ride the wave with you!

Elena

“A remnant of my soul”

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#strength #healingjourney #emotionalhealing #elenagonzalezphotography

Elena Gonzalez Photography

“It takes a man to capture

The heart of a woman,

but it takes a real man to

keep it for a lifetime”

~ Sharilyn Snyder

Sadly, it seems there is a shortage of real men in this world,
thus, we have such a high divorce rate.

If you have been loved
or are loved
by a real man
leave a heart ?? below
to give a girl some hope.

1) Self-Reliance. Have they successfully endured some time as a happy single? Are they capable of “adulting” without being totally dependent on parents or a boyfriend/girlfriend? The best marriages are two, whole, powerful people joining forces, not two half-people trying to be one whole person.

2) Spiritual Alignment. Our spiritual beliefs underpin every big decision we make. If you’re not aligned spiritually on “meaning of life” kind of things, you’re setting yourself up for potential disaster.

3) Growth mindset. Look for 1 or more of these clues:

– physical exercise/diet regimens

– reading books on personal or spiritual development, business, finance

– working on improving their habits

– attending classes/conferences not required by an employer

Basically, do they work on themselves with their own time and money?

4)Physical attraction. Don’t care what anyone else thinks. Through your own eyes, does this person ‘rev your engine’ a bit? Did your heart beat notably increase the first time you held or thought of holding their hand or putting your arms around them?

Good morning, friends,
it’s been seven months and I’m going on my first date today from E Harmony.

I feel like I fit two years of grief recovery and healing into my first six months?, as I exposed the lies and embraced truth.

I don’t believe I’m ready for a serious relationship,
but I’d like to explore friendships and possibilities.?

My heart is open to finding love again, my antenna is tune in to the wrong kind of person, I am working to be free of judgment and just get curious About how men think and behave?.

When you have experienced True unconditional love and successful partnership and you know life is meant to be shared and your loved one wants nothing more than for you to love and be loved,
Why would you say no?

My response when asked

“What’s the reason for your smile, Sharilyn?”

(By the way, that is my given name)

“The truth is, there is not much in my
external circumstances
to cause my smile,

I could tell you a hundred reasons I should be stressed and depressed,

but I choose to create a smile and joy and ecstasy on the internal through gratitude and meditation.

This is a new thing for me to explore.

My grief and loss propelled me into the research for solutions.”

Ps.
I have studied several books that lead me on this journey, if you send me a PM request, I will share with you