Maggie, one of our students, shared this about why she struggled, at first, to sign up for one of our programs:
“I struggled with thinking that taking this course is admitting blame for our relationship dysfunction, and vindicating that my partner is ‘right’ – that it is all MY problem. I don’t want to share with him that I am taking this program, but will need to if I am to be successful. Obviously being authentic is something I am here to learn. I don’t feel I have the tools yet to be open about this, but do I just jump right in and tell him? I was hoping to transform through implementation.”
There’s a LOT going on here, but let me just say that I get where Maggie is coming from. You see, Shari, I struggled with that same “I don’t want to be wrong mindset” after Paul and I had our “hanging by a thread” moment.
I don’t know many people who LIKE admitting when they are wrong.
I was willing to do the work, but I also fought with feeling like the “loser”…
Especially because Paul’s attitude back then was, “Okay Stacey, you go fix yourself, because there’s nothing for me to do.”
In his mind, he was right and I was the one with the problem.
Fast forward one year, and Paul and I were the happiest we’d EVER been.
Not only that, Paul was finally getting curious about what I had done differently that led us to this amazing new place.
But you know something, Shari?
Even if Paul HAD bailed…if he returned to his original belief that he and I could not be happy together…I would not have lost. And you know why?
Because I was also doing this work for ME, so that if, one day, Paul Martino and I are not together, I will still be the highest and best version of myself–a version of myself I can bring to ALL my relationships for the REST of my life, whether it’s with a partner, my kids, my friends, or anyone else in my life.
This work was for ME.
So, if you’re not signing up for or implementing Relationship Development® tools and strategies because you don’t want to feel like the loser, Shari, I get it…AND, I want to remind you that ultimately, you’re doing this work for YOU.
Yes, it ALSO can be to save your marriage and leave a legacy for your kids.
Just remember that whether you stay with your current partner or not, YOU are what you’ll bring to your next relationship. And a new partner won’t fix the same shit you bring with you anymore than a new paint color will make a car with no engine run.
The more skill sets you have…and the more tuned in you are to your highest and most authentic self…the better ALL your relationships will be, including with your current (or next) partner.
Sending love,
Stacey & Paul
OOh!!!! And P.S. – Whenever you’re ready, we want to serve you with what you need support on! Here are additional ways we can do this together:
#1 – [Podcast] Tune In Today! The Relationship Transformer Podcast
Paul & Stacey Martino have proven that it only takes ONE partner to transform a relationship…ANY relationship! The question is: “How does ONE person do that?” This podcast is the answer! Start with Episode 1 and listen in order.
Subscribe today! RelationshipTransformers.com
#2 – [5-Day Workshop] Open Now! FREE for a Limited Time!
The Relationship Transformer 5-Day Workshop! Discover The Proven Tools, Training & Resources to Transform Your Relationship… and Create Your Peaceful, Harmonious Household, Even If Your Partner REFUSES To Change Or Your Kids Are Out Of Control!
Enroll here: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com/5day-workshop
#3 – [Relationship Breakthrough Quick Start]
The FALL Quick Start program is OPEN Now!
Are you ready to BREAK the Chains of Demand Relationship for Your Family’s Legacy and break through to a whole new level in all your relationships? Our Relationship Breakthrough Quick Start program is life-changing!
Enroll in the 5-Day Workshop then, from Inside the Workshop, You Can Get Into the Quick Start with a huge tuition discount and bonuses! https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com/5day-workshop
#4 – [Online Live Event] Results in Just 3 DAYS!
Online Live Event Experience (Next RBR is December 2-4, 2021)
No matter where you are in your relationship today, the Relationship Breakthrough Retreat (RBR) is strategically designed to CATAPULT you to the next level in your relationship in just 3 days! RBR is a high-energy, fun, life-changing, breakthrough experience!
RBR Tickets are INCLUDED with our Quick Start Program. We highly recommend you do the 5-day Workshop and enroll in the Quick Start program to get your tix.
https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com/5day-workshop
#5 – [Work with Paul & Stacey Directly] 99% Success Rate & 1% Divorce Rate!
Join our RelationshipU Program!! Get LIVE coaching from Stacey and Paul directly! Do you want the BEST results!?! Do you want the FASTEST results!?! Do you want to live as your best and most authentic self and enjoy ALL of your relationships thriving? Do you want to go through life knowing exactly how to navigate any situation in a way that you can be happy? Our RelationshipU program may be the program for you!
RelationshipU is our year long program that has a 99% Success Rate and a 1% Divorce Rate! Are you ready to be part of the 99%!? If you want coaching from Stacey & Paul directly, and the highest level of tools and support offered by us, apply for enrollment in RelationshipU!
Only students who have completed the Quick Start program and attended RBR will be considered for enrollment into RU.
Get Details About RU Here: https://go.relationshipdevelopment.org/application